Glenn Reynold's Instapundit entry on polygamy caught my attention, first because its not a common topic over there, and second because Reynold's is talking out of school.
I'm occasionally amused by the implication that there's something unnatural about polygamy, though: It's quite possibly the most common form of marriage in human society, and certainly far too common to dismiss as some sort of perversion. (Heck, read your Old Testament). But I think that most of the polygamy-talk now is just a symptom of the gay-marriage debate, rather than a genuine freestanding concern.
Ironically, here in Utah we think gay marriage is just a symptom of the polygamy debate ;-)
Polygamy is in fact a "genuine freestanding concern" here for some very real and serious concerns. One must understand that polygamy as practiced in North America, is overwhelming the result of religious belief, not simply an odd little arrangment between consenting, secular adults.
There is far more relevance to that fact than one might assume at first glance. In many (not all) cases, polygamy is a means of social control. Among the FLDS (Fundamentalist Latter-day Saints, an offshoot of the 19th century Mormon church), wives and children are given as rewards for faithfulness, and taken as punishment for dissent. Those sullen young men Glenn refers to do not exist in the abstract, rather they cruise the streets of Las Vegas and Mesquite, Nevada selling their bodies for food and a place to sleep. A young man who is dispossessed from the polygamous community has no education, no skills and no prospects in the secular world. The cruel exile is the inevitable result of a relentless logic that demands that the community shuck off its surplus males in order to preserve the social economy of multiple wives.
That same logic says that girls should be married off at impossibly young, even prepubescent ages, to insure early pregancy and thus and iron link into polygamous society.
Before I moved to Utah, I thought much like Glenn Reynold's did, but the reality is sobering indeed, in fact I dare say that Mormon opposition to gay marriage (as contrasted to Evangelical opposition) is strongly tied to the fear that legalizing gay marriage means inevitably legalizing polygamy.
Surprisingly to some perhaps, polygamy is de facto legal. There have been no recent prosecutions based on the mere existence of a polygamous relationship. Rather prosecutions in Utah and Arizona in particular are focused on statutory rape (the Tom Green trial comes to mind), welfare fraud and other incidental practices and outcomes that are politically easier to prosecute in an age where people's maritial arrangements, or lack of them, isn't treated as a criminal matter regardless of whatever laws may still exist on the books.
The tip-toe-through-the-tulips legal approach to polygamy makes Utah attorney-general Mark Shurtleff a pretty popular guy throughout the intermountain west and even in Canada, as various states and local governments consult with him on how to deal with local groups of polygamists.
Its arguable whether legalizing polygamy would exacerbate the problems or not, but make no mistake--polygamy is a problem.
















Comments (1)
Interesting though that everyone speaks merely of polygamy (more than one spouse of either gender) as if it meant polygyny (more than one wife), and nobody speaks of polyandry (more than one husband) or polyamory (multiple loves, marital status not an issue), when they talk about legalizing gay marriage.
Personally I just plain can't support marriage, PERIOD, and don't understand for a moment why anyone, gay straight or other, would want to participate in such a really atrocious practice (I'm talking about LEGAL marriage, not unions between two people... the legal aspect is what I detest, having been through it).
And besides, all this talk about gay marriage still leaves bisexuals out in the cold. Not to mention that nobody ever talks about the fact that "gay" marriage is ALREADY LEGAL. Example:
John gets a sex change. John is now known as Jane. Jane marries Bob. Perfectly legal. Has Jane's genetic code changed? No. Is Jane a woman? No. Is Jane living as a woman? Yes. Are Jane & Bob in a legal gay marriage? Yes. Has this been going on for many many decades? Yes. Has Society crumbled? Well, yes to some extent, but for plenty of other reasons. ;)
Now, here I am a bisexual polyamorous male. If I want to legal marry my female partner, I can do so. But my male partner? No can do, I'm not allowed to marry him. SHE could marry him, except that then she would be practicing polyandry/polygamy.
Human beings were never meant to "mate for life." That is an unnatural state for us. Yes we can force ourselves to adapt to it, and some even grow to prefer it, but if it were a natural state for us, there would be no "cheating" and prostitution (and with it much political scandal!) would pretty much go away.
The entire thing is just absurd... all the uproar about who's marrying whom is a complete and total waste of energy and resources that could be better used elsewhere.
Get over yourselves people. Move along, nothing to see here.
Posted by Jonathan | January 9, 2006 9:17 PM
Posted on January 9, 2006 21:17